holding space for the wholeness of who you are
We are taught that adoption isn’t different. Society tends to support the rainbow and unicorn side of adoption but what about everything else? What about the confusion, hurts, abandonment and not belonging? What about the feelings you may be having but can’t find written anywhere ? This is where we unpack your personal adoption related experience. Whether you are an adult adoptee, adoptive parent seeking for yourself our you child or a birthparent, maybe it’s time to really be seen and heard in your adoption story?
As an adoptee myself, I wanted to create an environment that is unique to the experiences of adoptees, birthparents and adoptive parents in honoring the culture of adoption. After training as an adoption competent therapist I now speak and teach about the unique needs found in the adoption culture. Along the way, after interviewing many birthparents and adoptees I found out that for such a small population, we have a great percentage of members who seek out therapy. Many times it’s therapy for depression, anxiety, a feeling of loss of identity, or not knowing who you are. It may be because you are unsure how to relate to other people, or you have fears of loss or connection. Maybe it’s because you feel alone? What if these are the symptoms of your adoption experience? What I found through my research is that due to the lack of education, or the preconceived views of adoption sometimes held by therapists, the individual’s adoption experiences were often times lost in their therapy work. Many people left therapy feeling unheard, misunderstood and alone. In my work with those affected by adoption, each experience is treated uniquely as we explore the residual effect of loosing a child to adoption, being adopted or adopting a child into your family. Together we can create a space for your voice to be heard as you invite the feelings surrounding your adoption experience to be present, expressed and embraced in compassion.